Let me start this off by saying one thing: I do not have a lot of money….or possessions….or a fancy car. And yes I live in Orange County, Ca. But I can also say with confidence I am content with the person I am and the things I do within my community. Ultimately, I don’t see my job(s) as a paycheck anymore, no, I see my work as an extension of who I am as a person and what I feel my purpose is in this life. Granted, these things can always change. I have never been one to believe that we have to settle for ordinary and in fact I think that word should be banned from our repertoire of wonderful words we could use to describe what we do and who we are. I don't typically like to give others advice on how to live their lives but just some food for thought (and I do love food!): If your life in any of it’s facets has become Ordinary, contemplate trying something new, yes, radically new and exciting. Challenging our Ordinary and finding areas of discomfort opens up new pathways, creates new connections, keeps us thinking and wards off the curse of boredom. Each day is a gift, our very lives a miraculous circumstance that none of us have 100% figured out (email me if you have).Read More
For the sake of getting straight to the point I will say this: I have been very busy as of late with all great things! All the while though I forgot to be grateful for it all (oops!). Amongst all the work, family, work outs, keeping up with friends, more work and other menial duties I really didn’t stop to think abut the fact that I have had the honor of carrying out all of these tasks and I am in fact very grateful for it all. However, the caveat with all this positive busy-ness is that I have begun to neglect myself and my needs and I have found myself on-edge a lot more than usual, worrying about all the things I need to get done, what I’m not tending to, how short the days can seem, how long others can seem, who I haven't connected with, how many things have gone less than perfectly…you get the point. But none of that actually is THE POINT; sed point is much larger then any of my trivial worries can ever amount to and with this knowledge one should be able to chill out and relax right? Well, yes but finding this sense of inner peace during times of chaos (good or bad!) I am finding this is an artfully composed dance, a dance around BALANCE. Give and take, ebb and flow, positive and negative; always in life there are existing forces of opposition and it is our greatest task to find something in between the two forces that inevitably take us in two totally different directions. All of this is good if we can somehow refrain from attaching “the story” to our emotions and situations that continuously occur throughout our lives, meaning when something, anything happens to us we immediately attach a story to it telling ourselves how to react and at that moment we decide if we are holding onto this emotion and story we have told ourselves. We do this constantly! And we are supposed to, we are human after all; perfection is not something we are going to be attaining anytime soon.Read More
Just a few years ago if you had told me I would be writing my first official blog post on being calm during major life changes I would have been confused, amused and probably laughed about it. But the truth is I have learned to be okay with changes however big or small and the fear of not knowing what the outcome may be no longer phases me.
How did I get to this place? To be perfectly honest I'm not sure I can accurately describe it but what I do know for certain is that I began to trust. I trusted that when I felt inclined to do something, talk to someone, go some place I felt that for a reason and I needed to go for it! The problem with this listening to myself thing is that it got in the way of my routines, my structure and the way I had designed my life to be very calculated; long story short I realized this perfectly structured way of living was quite frankly awful!Read More